Since I’ve got off the bars of my son’s crib and transformed it into a bed for big children we’ve formed some kind of a ritual. My son was a little scared not to fall off his bed at first, even though we’ve put a protective bar on the edge of it. Until then he fell asleep on his own. So he asked us a favor: “Will you stay with me?”
At first, I was surprised. I mean, my two and a half years old son, who until then he said Good-bye to us after finishing his bottle of milk, now wanted us there, near him. After giving some more thought (while reading some good books on parenting) I decided to stay with him. I carefully explained him that after he will fall asleep I will go to my room and sleep there. He understood.
This is how our ritual began. Every evening is the same. I give him his bottle of milk, I try and find my little spot in his little bed and hold him in my arms. I love it when I tell him I love you and he answers the same with his childish voice. I love the way his hair get into my face. I love the way he smells. I love everything about him (even though sometimes I get angry at him for being a naughty boy and not listening to me).
The things that changed my opinion on staying with my son until he fell asleep were these:
- It’s a great opportunity to create a deeper connection with him. He knows I’m there for him, anytime, anywhere.
- I could read him a book every evening. He could easily see the beautiful pictures from the book with me being so close to him.
- I could teach him to be kind and loving by holding him in my arms. He is now holding me in his arms also, just for two seconds, and says to me that he loves me. Happy me!
His father is also trying to connect with him by sometimes staying by his side until he falls asleep. Their connecting time is usually their play-time (when daddy is not too tired from work).
Do you have a ritual including your kids? How does your kid fall asleep?